Understanding Today's Narcissist
Understanding Today's Narcissist

Episode 74 · 1 year ago

10 Traits That May Indicate a Personality Disorder

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As a general rule, people with personality disorders can be difficult to get along or maintain a healthy relationship with. They can be argumentative, stubborn, and frustrating if there is a lack of understanding about what a PD really means or how it manifests itself in an individual. A person with a PD has an inaccurate perception of reality which is pervasive in every environment and is not diagnosed until 18 years old. However, there always is a previous history of five years giving indications that a person has a PD before their formal diagnosis that can still help those around them identify the issue.

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...different kinds, because there are different kinds of personality disorders, even though we really only focus on narcissism and this podcast. So throughout your lifetime you're likely to encounter several people within your family, relationships, friendships and even work environments who have a personality disorder. As a general rule, people with personality disorders can be difficult to get along with or to even maintain a healthy relationship with. They can be argumentative, stubborn and frustrating, even if there is a lack of understanding about what a personality disorder means or how it manifests in an individual. A person with a personality disorder has an inaccurate perception of reality, which is pervasive in every environment and is not usually diagnosed until eighteen years old. However, there is a previous history of five years giving indications that this...

...person has a personality disorder before their formal diagnosis. That can still help those around them to identify the issue well. There are several other personality disorders that are not listed in the DSM, such as passive, aggressive and depressive personality disorder. The main ones are antisocial, narcissism, borderline histrionic, obsessive, compulsive, paranoid, schizoid, skizo type, dependent and avoidant. In order to help identify someone who may have a personality disorder, here are ten signs that you can look at. Number One, multiple misunderstandings. A person with a personality disorder often hears intentions that you might not have expressed, meaning that they will often perceive an ulterior meeting to what you're saying. A narcissist will hear how you idealize them, when they are not really ideal, while an...

...avoidant will hear that you hate them when you really don't. Whatever the internal dialog is within the personality disorders person's mind, for instance in security, superiority or emotion, is what they may project onto you as what you're saying about them. So multiple misunderstandings is number one. Number two, major misperceptions. Because of the misperceptions personality disorder, people have a significant misperceptions about their relationships with you and their place in society. People with Histrionic personality disorder are famous for becoming besties the moment they meet you. Then they lack any awareness that you might not have the same feeling towards them. So number two is major misperceptions. Number three, spoiler alert. A spoiler is a person who hijacks...

...your fun. They can do this by ruining a surprise, guessing the end of a movie, pointing out unrealistic risks to inhibit your activities and ending a good time by generating unnecessary drama. This is done to center the attention on just how smart or right they may be, which is a classic obsessive, compulsive and narcissistic behavioral trait. So those spoiler alert is number three. Number four, no does not mean no. Overstepping boundaries is a typical sign of a personality disorder. Instead of recognizing that you have a right to set your own limits, they routinely override any boundary that is not to their liking. antisocials and borderlines do this for different reasons. Most of the time, a person who has borderline personality disorder is unaware that they have overstepped, while a person who has antisocial disorder takes pleasure in overstepping. So number four, no,...

...doesn't mean no. Number five plays the victim card. In an effort to evade responsibility, a personality disorder person will play the victim card or bring up events from their childhood or trauma to justify their behavior. It is one thing to have a traumatic event that impacts a person, triggering a PTSD response, but it is an entirely different matter to use that event to gain control, take advantage of another, manipulate others or escape responsibility. People who have paranoia or a dependent or antisocial do this on a regular basis. Number five is played the victim card. Number six, relationship in balance. Some of the personality disorders have too intense relationships, such as borderline, histrionic and dependent,...

...while other personality disorders completely lack intimacy, like narcissists, avoidant, schizoid, schizo type, obsessive, compulsive and antisocial. Either way, there is no balance within the relationship either. They are two ameshed or completely lack intimacy. Number six is relationship imbalance. Number seven no progress. There's not a lot of growth for a person who has a personality disorder. They can change, but the change is prolonged and time consuming. Most personality disorders don't ever stop being a personality disorder, with the exception of people who have borderline personality disorder. This is the only personality disorder that research has shown can and does improve with specific types of therapy. Number seven is no progress. Number eight blame shifting. When a personality disorder enters therapy with a significant other like you,...

...they are very quick to paint a pristine image of themselves while making you look crazy. Obsessive compulsives even come in with a list of faults and handed to the therapist with all their flaws of you exposed. When confronted with their own errors, they are quick to blame you or other people. Number Eight is blame shifting. Number nine blatant lies. It is one thing to create a white lie to protect the feelings of you. It is something that a personality disorder doesn't normally do, but it is another thing to blatantly lie to protect themselves. This is done to self protect, because a person with a personality disorder cannot admit the problem resides within them. If they do, it is over dramatized to the point of ridiculousness in an effort to real you back in antisocials, lies are the most harmful because they usually result in a traumatic...

...event for you. Number nine is blatant lies. Number ten is distortion of life. Both schizoid and Schizo type have a distorted view of life and their place within it. They tend to see the world through a prism where things are not exactly what they seem. There is a lot of fantasizing about a world that is not really based in reality. So number ten is distortion of life. Let's review these again. Number One, multiple misunderstandings. Number two, major misperceptions. Number three, spoiler alert. Number four, no doesn't mean no. Number five plays the victim card. Number six, relationship IM balance. Number seven, no progress, number eight blame shifting, number nine blatant lies and number ten distortion of life. So, while any of these...

...ten signs may indicate that a person has a personality disorder, remember that they must be an adult and diagnosed by a therapist to conform the disorder. If you had any concerns about your friends or family members, please seek help and speak to a professional before drawing any hasty conclusions about a person. Thanks for listening to understanding to day's narcissist with Christine had brought to you in part by Psych Central Dot Com. For more information, visit grow with Christine Dot Com.

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