Understanding Today's Narcissist
Understanding Today's Narcissist

Episode 8 · 1 year ago

5 Ways to Survive Narcissistic In-Laws

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It was a second marriage for Clark and Claudia so they were both prepared for a difficult first couple of years as they blended their families together. But what they did not expect was the added difficulty of Clark’s parents. He knew that they were narcissistic and even prepared Claudia for their limited encounters. However, the holidays brought out an intensity that Clark did not expect. It also was Clark’s birthday and his mother invited them by saying, “Only I know how to properly celebrate our special day.” The passive-aggressive comment was just the beginning of the strange behavior.

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...like to hear more about it, please goahead and send me an email at gro with Christine at gmailcom. That's Gr, O Wwi th CHR. I S Tine at GMAILCOM. I will be happy to answer your questions andeven happier if you want to give me a suggestion of something that you wouldlike to hear more about regarding narcissism. So let's talk about thefive different ways you can survive and Arcessistic inlaws. So we're going totalk about Clark and Claudia. It was a second marriage for both of them, sothey were prepared for a difficult first couple of years as they wound upblending their families together. But what they did not expect was the addeddifficulty of Clark's parents. He knew they were narcisistic and he evenprepared Claudia for their limited encounters. However, the holidaysbrought out an intensity that Clark did...

...not expect. It was also Clark'sbirthday and his mother invited them by saying only. I know how to properlycelebrate our special day. This passive aggressive comment was just thebeginning of the very strange behavior Clark's mom treated her son link. Hewalked on water. Absolutely nothing was his fault. Everything was Claudia'sfault. It was as if he was a demi gods of swords and Claudia was not goodenough to even wash his feet when Clark sneezed during this visit. His mothersaid, if Claudia, took better care of you, this wouldn' happen. You never gotthe flu with me. Clark learned in the past to ignoredgesuch comments, but for Claudia WHOs still trying to oppress her inlaws. Shetook the criticism, unfortunately, to heart, yet the most revealing statementhappened when they were watching...

Clark's kids plain his mother turned toClaudia and said enjoy them now, because one day they will leave youforever for some one else. That was it again. The remarks seemed to roll offClark's back while it bothered Cuaudia. After that remark, Claudia secretlyvowed to stay away from her mother in law as much as possible, desperate to figure out a way tosurvive the penning doom of the weekend. However, Claudia revisited her and readup on Narcissism, she decided to settle on these five strategies of survival.We're going to talk about them number one charm is a trap at the beginning of their relationship.Claudia thought she connected with Clark's mother, but just before thewedding Clark revealed a telling conversation in which his motherencouraged him to walk away from the...

Penny. Marriage ever since then Claudia,felt, displaced, uneasy and confused. This time was going to be different,claudiavowed not to fall prey to her charm, instead of seeing herpleasantres as an attempt to improve the relationship. Claudia would viewthem as bait to draw her in so she could be attacked later. She chose notto believe the flattery instead view it as a trap, so the first tip is charm is a trap. Second tip conversation is anopportunity. Looking back on their relationship,Claudia realized that Clark's mother would draw her into a conversation thatquickly turned into a competition of who showed more love to her husband. Itwas a sick cycle that Claudy had tried to avoid, but dodging discussions withher mother in law. Only resultet in...

...comments, like your wife hates me. Shewon't even talk to me. Instead Claudia decided tointentionally converse with her mother in Law about herself that way, Claudia would avoid talkingabout herself and her mother in law would retain the spotlight. So cadia saw conversation as anopportunity, our second tip, by getting her mother in law. To talk aboutherself number three confusion is vulnerability. Cadia began taking an inventory oftheir past discussions and realize that she often apologized for things thatwere not her fault. Her mother in law used her confessions as furtherevidence of Claudias Anepnis as a wife, mother and even a human being. Claudia thought. By that expressingregret, her relationship would improve...

...and she would keep the peace and, undernormal circumstances, this might be correct, but with a narcissist, this isviewed as weakness and an opportunity for future attack. So cadia decided tosay to not to say I'm sorry for a wholeentire weekend. So confession is vulnerability, isnumber three number four charades are a cover in talking with Clark. Claudia realizedthat her mother in Law's memory of grandiosity was greatly exaggerated.Her husband just dismissed the stories as fictional, while Claudia took themto heart, belieaving them to be some standard that she needed to achieve inreality, the false mass that her mother in law war was a covering for a deeprooted insecurity, the greater the...

...story, the larger the insecurity justgrasping this truth, eased Claudia's own insecurities and helped her to seeher mother in law as Hay. Flawed, not perfect person, so number four charads are a cover. Number five confidence is Golden. The larger than life persona that hermother in law displayed, claused, Claudia to shrink in comparison. Without her shield of confidence,Caudia was defenseless to the passive aggressive personal attacks, like everygood mother knows how to do this. This immediately put Cuadi on thedefence, while her mother in law remained safely on the offense. No gamewas ever one with a good defence. Only so cuadia rehearse some comback linesin retaliation. Good mothers might know that. But greatmothers do this...

...by anticipating her mother in Law'snegativity with Claudia's new salad, counter attacks, she was able toconfidently survive the weekend, so confidence is Golden. Let's gothrough the five again so that you can survive a weekend with yournarcissistic. Inlaws. Remember, charm is a trap. Conversation is an opportunity. Confession is vulnerability, charades are just to cover, and confidence is golden. These five strategies allowed Claudiato walk away from the weekend feeling more secure, not less. Surprisingly,the more confidence Cuadia demonstrated, the less her mother in law attacked thetemptation after such success is to believe that things are permanentlychanged or fixed. However, this is not...

...the case, as Narcissus will patientlywait for future opportunities to attack, so quadia decided to keep repeatingthese techniques over and over again, and this wound up reducing some of theproblems that she was experiencing every time she had to encount herinlaws. So I hope that's very helpful for you.Those are five ways to survive with your narcissistic inlaws. This isespecially useful when you're dealing with somebody who you don't have to seevery often for those of you who do have to see your inlaws very often and theirnarcissistic. You may want to look at some of the steps that we talked aboutfor a spouse, because sometimes when you have that kind of a closerelationship, it feels more like a spousal relationship than it does adistant in law relationship. So try on these steps for SIGES,remember, they're, just five of them and see if they help you out next time.You have to deal with your narcissistic...

...inlaws, thanks for listening to understandingtoday's nurcissist, with Christine Hamland brought to you in part by psychicentralDacop for more information visit grow with Christine Com.

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